"I seem to have developed an intolerance to any kind of abusive behaviour. . . . Can anyone relate to what I'm saying?"
I can relate to what you're saying totally!
I used to be the kind of person who would respond back to anal orifices and willful idiots with persistent logic and facts. I eventually learned though that ideas and opinions are not about the factual or the logical but the psychological. The willfully ignorant; the arrogant; the Bully; are simply incapable of being changed no matter what approach you take. At least 99% of the time.
My approach now is to take one or two punches but as soon as the third one comes I go wild. I explain things rationally, with a lot of attention to detail and factuality. But when posters react arrogantly right from their first response, I go into sarcastic mode. Depending on the subject, I still include reason and facts but I mix them with razor sharp sarcasm. Then the bully and/or idiot starts crying.
"I'm not sure that my 'new' attitude is healthy. Many people expect us to put up and shut up, for all kinds of reasons. I cant. Not anymore."
Not only do some reach the stage where they can't take it anymore but they shouldn't have stood up to it for as long as they have; me included. If we "put up and shut up" the situation will only worsen. If you do something, then the situation will worsen anyway. The reason is that some people have a sense of self entitlement and it's their intrinsic nature to be that way.
The end result is that we have two choices:
- Do nothing and die. Psychically or physically. You won't be in control of your destiny.
- Fight back blazing. No matter how much the situation escalates and how bad it gets, you will be in control of your destiny.
- The result is; and this applies to physical combat as well; that even if you were to lose the war, you have depleted your enemy of resources and inflicted some damage. That weakens your enemy, making him more vulnerable to his next victim; should that victim choose to fight back.